In a previous Blog Post, I discussed the prevalence of bullies in workplace culture (How to Spot a Bully in the Workplace and What to Do About It). My recommended reading list included The No Asshole Rule with the comment “A gem. I may write another post just about this book.”
Here it is.
The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t by Robert Sutton, PhD
The summary of this book says it is, “a business handbook on preventing and curing a negative work environment that explains how to restore civility to the workplace by weeding out problem employees in order to increase profit and productivity.”
But, oh, it is so much more.
How bad can working with, living with, and having toxic jerks in your life be? Consider some of these stats from the book:
Studies show that having just one chronic jerk in a workplace can diminish performance of the entire staff by a whopping 30%-40% .
Negative interactions affect mood fives times stronger than positive interactions.
25% of bullying targets and 20% of witnesses to bullying leave their jobs.
Working with toxic people can increase you risk of heart attack 20%-40%.
While this book was written with workplaces in mind, The No Asshole Rule can be applied to all areas of life. The author originally published his idea in the Harvard Business Review with the title: “More Trouble than They’re Worth”. And that basically sums up the No Asshole Rule. Some people, whether in your personal life or your business life, are simply more trouble than they’re worth.
The No Asshole Rule can help you:
1. Distinguish between people who are having a bad day (temporary assholes) and those who are persistently nasty and destructive.
2. Spot the most common actions that toxic people use against others.
3. Discover how to assess the actual cost of having a toxic person in your workplace or life. (Yes, you can add up the money spent dealing with destructive, mean people. Think of such things as hourly salaries of managers and the human resources department. Think of sick time taken by the people who are targeted by the jerks. Think of the costs of counseling and lawyers. Think of stress-related illnesses and medications. Think of the loss of quality of life.)
4. Discover how to set up a No Asshole Rule and enforce it.
5. Learn how not to be an asshole. (Reigning in your inner jerk, avoiding asshole-poisoning, and a self-test to see if you often behave like a jackass.)
6. Tips for surviving an asshole-infested workplace.
7. The virtues of assholes (Yes!) with the warning that being a jerk all the time won’t work.
8. How a few demeaning creeps can overwhelm a horde of nice people.
The bottom line is that toxic personalities, whether at work or home, demean and de-energize those around them. They cost everyone in many ways: money, time, health, confidence, etc, etc. The advice of this book is clear: Expel rotten apples as fast as possible. There is a reason, Sutton asserts, that there is a delete button on the cover of the book.
I give this book Five Stars. It’s not just a valuable tool for the workplace, it is important for those who want to free themselves from anyone toxic in their lives.