Is it Time to Have THE TALK with your Kids?

It can be hard to talk about puberty, bodies, and sex with our children. Not only are we uncomfortable and hope we are picking the right words and tone, but no kids want to think about their parents in the framework of anything sexual. Heck, most of us adults do not want to think about our parents or kids in that framework either. However, discussions need to be had, and information shared. If you have seen my previous post, “Is Time to Talk About Bodies with Younger Children?, you might have already looked at some of the books I suggested for parents. Most of those books include discussion aids for children of all ages, and might make you feel more prepared for the discussion.

If your children are approaching puberty, or well on their way, they will have much different concerns and questions than a five year old wondering about the differences between boys and girls and how babies come about. So I have listed books here for the eight and older crowd, and then the tween and teen crowd that might have much more difficult questions to answer. I would suggest reading some of the books before handing them off to your curious child in order for you to gauge its appropriateness for your particular child, and to help you to handle any of the resulting conversations.

Eight and Up:
1. The Boy’s Body Guide: a Health and Hygiene Book by Frank C. Hawkins with Greta L.B. Laube ; illustrated by J.C. Hawkins

2. Ready, Set, Grow!: a What’s Happening to my Body? Book for Younger Girls by Lynda Madaras; illustrations by Linda Davick.

3. On your Mark, Get Set, Grow!: a “what’s happening to my body?” Book for Younger Boys by Lynda Madaras ; illustrations by Paul Gilligan

4. The Care & Keeping of You: the Body Book for Younger Girls by Valorie Schaefer; Cara Natterson, MD, medical consultant ; illustrated by Josee Masse

5. The Body Book for Boys by Jonathan Mar and Grace Norwich

6. Changing You!: a Guide to Body Changes and Sexuality by Gail Saltz; illustrated by Lynne Avril Cravath

7. Asking about Sex & Growing Up: a Question-and-Answer Book for Kids by Joanna Cole; illustrated by Bill Thomas.
Preteens and Teens:

1. Will Puberty Last My Whole Life?: Real Answers to Real Questions from Preteens about Body Changes, Sex, and Other Growing-up Stuff by Julie Giesy Metzger and Robert Lehman; illustrated by Lia Cerizo

2. Girl to Girl: Honest Talk about Growing up and your Changing Body by Sarah O’Leary Burningham

3. The Care & Keeping of You 2: the Body Book for Older Girls by Dr. Cara Natterson ; illustrated by Josee Masse

4. My Body, My Self for Boys by Lynda Madaras and Area Madaras.

5. The What’s Happening to my Body? Book for Girls by Lynda Madaras, with Area Madaras; drawings by Simon Sullivan

6. The What’s Happening to my Body? Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras; with Area Madaras; drawings by Simon Sullivan

7. On the Spot: Real Girls on Periods, Growing up, and Finding your Groove by Karle Dickerson

8. What’s Going on Down There?: Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask by Karen Gravelle, with Nick and Chava Castro; illustrations by Robert Leighton.

9. Girl in the Know: Your Inside-and-Out Guide to Growing Up by Anne Katz; illustrated by Monika Melnychuk

10. Sex, Puberty and All that Stuff: a Guide to Growing Up by Jacqui Bailey

11. Is This Normal?: Girls’ Questions Answered by the editors of The Care & Keeping of You illustrations by Norm Bendell

12. Girl Stuff: a Survival Guide to Growing Up by Margaret Blackstone and Elissa Haden Guest; with illustrations by Barbara Pollak

If you are still looking for more book, swing by the children’s room or the reference desk and the librarian on duty will be glad to help you out!

On Our Shelf: New Contemporary Romance

romGrab a chair and find a nice, shady place to read these hot, romantic books!

love with a perfect cowboyLove With A Perfect Cowboy by Lori Wilde – Melody Spencer had long-ago wiped the dust of Cupid, Texas, off her cute shoes . . . and done her best to forget the chiseled jaw and strong arms of cowboy Luke Spencer.   But now Luke’s come striding back into her life,  and he has an ulterior motive.  As Mayor of Cupid, he knows Melody’s business savvy can help save their beloved hometown. His smooth talking might get her to Texas, but that doesn’t mean he’ll get her in his bed.marriage pact

The Marriage Pact by Linda Lael Miller – Ten years ago, Hadleigh Stevens was eighteen and this close to saying “I do,” when Tripp Galloway interrupted her walk down the aisle. Now that she’s recovered from her youthful mistake and Tripp’s interference, Hadleigh and her single friends form a marriage pact.  Divorced and eager to reconnect with his cowboy roots, Tripp returns to Bliss County to save his ailing father’s ranch. He’s not looking for another wife—certainly not his best friend’s little sister. But he’s never been able to forget Hadleigh. And this time, if she ends up in his arms, he won’t be walking away!

baby it's youBaby, It’s You by Jane Graves – With only the wedding dress on her back and her honeymoon luggage in the car, Kari Worthington is running away.  She escapes to the Texas Hill country  and lands on a tall, dark, and gorgeous winery owner’s doorstep. All she needs is a job and a place to live until she can get back on her feet. So why is she fantasizing about losing herself in his powerful arms?  For Marc Cordero, freedom is so close he can taste it. He’s devoted his life to managing the family business and being a single dad. Now with his daughter away at college and his brother taking over the winery, Marc is ready to hop on his Harley for parts unknown-until a runaway bride bursts onto the scene.  Marc give up his future to take a chance on love?take my breath

Take My Breath Away by Christie Ridgway –  Poppy Walker has a plan to restore the family resort, and she’s sticking to it. So when a good-looking guy with plenty of cash rents one of her half-repaired vacation cabins, she figures he’s just what the handyman ordered.   Former teen idol turned Hollywood exec Ryan Hamilton wants a private place in which to endure his very personal heartbreak. Finally, at this rustic mountain cabin, he has all the seclusion one man could want—until sparks begin to fly with his sexy, formerly chilly landlady.

once tastedOnce Tasted by Laura Moore – Everything has come easily to Reid Knowles, the middle son of a California ranching family. But his charmed life is suddenly complicated when his good friend and neighbor asks him to help run the winery next door. His neighbor’s niece, Mia Bodell, is in charge—and she has made it clear that she’d rather be roped to a steer than to Reid Knowles.   Her life marked by loss, Mia knows that nothing comes easily—love included.  From Reid’s first intoxicating kiss to his unexpectedly tender seduction, Mia is swept into a passionate affair that could tear her heart to pieces . . . or give her everything she has ever wanted.a man's promise

A Man’s Promise by Brenda Jackson –  Superstar musician Caden Granger has spent years running from love, commitment and family. Yet despite his fame and fortune, he knows the kind of respect and adoration he needs can only come from one person—the very woman who wants nothing to do with him.  Charity volunteer and owner of a wine boutique, Shiloh Timmons finally got her life on track once her relationship with Caden ended, and she’s in no hurry to revisit a romance with the man who believes she left him standing at the altar.

i want to holdI Want to Hold Your Hand by Marie Force – Almost seven years after losing her husband in Iraq, Hannah Abbott Guthrie isn’t sure she’s ready—or able—to move on, but the attentions of a lifelong friend are making her think about it for the first time.   Nolan has loved Hannah for years, but he’d been giving her the space she needed to heal from her devastating loss. Now, when an opportunity arises to show her how he feels, Nolan can’t resist, but he knows earning her love will take more than a kiss.all i want

All I Want Is You by Toni Blake –  Christy Knight grew up in Destiny, Ohio, but lately she feels that her future lies elsewhere. Her parents are gone and the beautiful jewelry she creates doesn’t pay the bills. Maybe it’s time for Christy to grow up and find a guy who’s smart, sexy, and solvent. Her rugged handyman neighbor fits the first two categories, but he’s all wrong for her. If only he didn’t have such captivating blue eyes.  Wary of trusting others, Jack DuVall hasn’t been entirely honest with Christy. He’s not really a handyman. He’s not really broke. And sharing the long drive to visit her beloved grandpa isn’t just about gallantry—he finds gorgeous, feisty Christy completely irresistible.

troublemakerThe Troublemaker Next Door by Marie Harte -It’s been the day from hell for Maddie. Instead of offering a promotion, her boss made a pass. She quit, then got dumped by her lukewarm boyfriend. As the fiery redhead has a foul-mouthed meltdown, her green-eyed neighbor Flynn McCauley stands in her kitchen…completely captivated.  He was just there to fix the sink as a favor. He’s not into relationships. She’s done with idiots. But where there are friends…sometimes there are benefits. And sometimes the boy next door might be just what you need at the end of every day.suddenly

Suddenly Last Summer by Sarah Morgan – Fiery French chef Élise Philippe is having a seriously bad day. Not only have the grand opening plans for her beloved café fallen apart, but Sean O’Neil is back in town and looking more delectable than ever. Memories of the electrifying night they shared last summer leave Élise very tempted, but she knows all too well that eventually Sean will be leaving…again.   Being back in Vermont—even temporarily—is surgeon Sean O’Neil’s worst nightmare. Returning home to the Snow Crystal Resort means confronting the guilt he feels about rejecting his family’s lifestyle years ago. But discovering that Élise is still in Vermont and still sets his blood racing is a very welcome distraction!

talkingTalking After Midnightby Dakota Cassidy – Marybell Lyman is notorious for two things:  Her look. The wicked hairstyle, multiple piercings and practiced sneer that say: “Stay back—I bite.”  Her voice. The syrupy lilt that’s her bread and butter at Call Girls, the prim little town’s flourishing phone-sex company.   Hunky handyman Taggart Hawthorn is mesmerized.  He wants to know more about mysterious Marybell, to hear more of her sexy talk—all for himself.

Christmas in July by Debbie Mason – Grace Flaherty had given up hope of ever seeing her christmashusband again. After all, it’d been over a year since he went missing in combat. So when he strides through the door of her bakery in downtown Christmas one sunny afternoon, she can hardly believe her eyes. But her happily-ever-after is going to take some effort – because Jack has no memory of his family.  All Jack Flaherty remembers about Christmas is that he couldn’t wait to leave town. Now he’s a local hero with a wife and son he doesn’t know. Even as he struggles to rekindle the romance with his wife, he knows in his heart what he wants: a second chance at love.

Also for your reading pleasure:  Wedding at Cardwell Ranch by B.J. Daniels, The Promise by Robyn Carr, Wild Iris Ridge by RaeAnne Thayne, The Tea Shop On Lavender Lane by Sheila Roberts

Walter Dean Myers Passes Away

WalterDeanMyers-318x500Walter Dean Myers, beloved and deeply respected children’s book author, died on July 1, 2014, following a brief illness. He was 76 years old. The School Library Journal released his obituary on July 2nd.

Just about anyone that has read children’s or young adult literature in the last forty-five years will have read or at least heard of Walter Dean Myers and seen some of the over 100 books that he has written. This impressive body of work includes two Newbery Honor Books, three National Book Award Finalists, and six Coretta Scott King Award/Honor-winning books. He was also the winner of the first-ever Michael L. Printz Award, the first recipient of the Coretta Scott King-Virginia Hamilton Award for Lifetime Achievement, and a recipient of the Margaret A. Edwards Award for lifetime achievement in writing for young adults. In 2010, Walter was the United States nominee for the Hans Christian Andersen Award, and in 2012 he was appointed the National Ambassador for Young People’s Literature, serving a two-year tenure in the position. Also in 2012, Walter was recognized as an inaugural NYC Literary Honoree, an honor given by former New York City Mayor Michael Bloomberg, for his substantial lifetime accomplishments and contribution to children’s literature.

If you have not read anything from Myers, I would suggest using this loss as a motivation to get reading. His work is deep and sometimes heart wrenching, telling the stories of young people that need a voice and need to be heard. Here is a small sampling of his books which you might want to start with.

1. Darius & Twig
2. Invasion
3. All the Right Stuff
4. The Dream Bearer
5. Monster
6. The Glory Field
7. Hoops
8. 145th Street: Short Stories
9. Harlem: a Poem
10. Bad Boy: A Memoir

Oprah’s Books of Summer 2014

readingO, The Oprah Magazine has announced their picks for summer reading.  Here’s a sampling of some of the titles.  Grab a chair and a cool drink and enjoy some summer reading!

bloodBlood Will Out: The True Story of Murder, A Mystery and a Masquerade by Walter Kirn – In the summer of 1998, Walter Kirn—then an aspiring novelist struggling with impending fatherhood and a dissolving marriage—set out on a peculiar, fateful errand: to personally deliver a crippled hunting dog from his home in Montana to the New York apartment of one Clark Rockefeller, a secretive young banker and art collector who had adopted the dog over the Internet. Thus began a fifteen-year relationship that drew Kirn deep into the fun-house world of an outlandish, eccentric son of privilege who ultimately would be unmasked as a brazen serial impostor, child kidnapper, and brutal murderer.vacationers

The Vacationers by Emma Straub – For the Posts, a two-week trip to the Balearic island of Mallorca with their extended family and friends is a celebration: Franny and Jim are observing their thirty-fifth wedding anniversary, and their daughter, Sylvia, has graduated from high school. The sunlit island, its mountains and beaches, its tapas and tennis courts, also promise an escape from the tensions simmering at home in Manhattan. But all does not go according to plan: over the course of the vacation, secrets come to light, old and new humiliations are experienced, childhood rivalries resurface, and ancient wounds are exacerbated.

chinaChina Dolls by Lisa See – It’s 1938 in San Francisco: a world’s fair is preparing to open on Treasure Island, a war is brewing overseas, and the city is alive with possibilities. Grace, Helen, and Ruby, three young women from very different backgrounds, meet by chance at the exclusive and glamorous Forbidden City nightclub. Grace Lee, an American-born Chinese girl, has fled the Midwest with nothing but heartache, talent, and a pair of dancing shoes. Helen Fong lives with her extended family in Chinatown, where her traditional parents insist that she guard her reputation like a piece of jade. The stunning Ruby Tom challenges the boundaries of convention at every turn with her defiant attitude and no-holds-barred ambition.  The girls become fast friends, relying on one another through unexpected challenges and shifting fortunes.i am having

I Am Having So Much Fun Here Without You by Courtney Maum – Despite the success of his first solo show in Paris and the support of his brilliant French wife and young daughter, thirty-four-year-old British artist Richard Haddon is too busy mourning the loss of his American mistress to a famous cutlery designer to appreciate his fortune.  But after Richard discovers that a painting he originally made for his wife, Anne—when they were first married and deeply in love—has sold, it shocks him back to reality and he resolves to reinvest wholeheartedly in his family life…just in time for his wife to learn the extent of his affair. Rudderless and remorseful, Richard embarks on a series of misguided attempts to win Anne back while focusing his creative energy on a provocative art piece to prove that he’s still the man she once loved.

one moreOne More Thing by B.J. Novak – A boy wins a $100,000 prize in a box of Frosted Flakes—only to discover that claiming the winnings might unravel his family. A woman sets out to seduce motivational speaker Tony Robbins—turning for help to the famed motivator himself. A new arrival in Heaven, overwhelmed with options, procrastinates over a long-ago promise to visit his grandmother. We meet Sophia, the first artificially intelligent being capable of love, who falls for a man who might not be ready for it himself; a vengeance-minded hare, obsessed with scoring a rematch against the tortoise who ruined his life; and post-college friends who try to figure out how to host an intervention in the era of Facebook.  Along the way, we learn why wearing a red T-shirt every day is the key to finding love, how February got its name, and why the stock market is sometimes just  down.care and

The Care and Management of Lies by Jacqueline Winspear –  By July 1914, the ties between Kezia Marchant and Thea Brissenden, friends since girlhood, have become strained—by Thea’s passionate embrace of women’s suffrage, and by the imminent marriage of Kezia to Thea’s brother, Tom, who runs the family farm. When Kezia and Tom wed just a month before war is declared between Britain and Germany, Thea’s gift to Kezia is a book on household management—a veiled criticism of the bride’s prosaic life to come. Yet when Tom enlists to fight for his country and Thea is drawn reluctantly onto the battlefield, the farm becomes Kezia’s responsibility. Each must find a way to endure the ensuing cataclysm and turmoil.

mockingThe Mockingbird Next Door: Life with Harper Lee by Marja Mills –  In 2001, the Lee sisters opened their door to Chicago Tribune journalist Marja Mills. It was the beginning of a long conversation—and a great friendship.

In 2004, with the Lees’ blessing, Mills moved into the house next door to the sisters. She spent the next eighteen months there, sharing coffee at McDonalds and trips to the Laundromat with Nelle, feeding the ducks and going out for catfish supper with the sisters, and exploring all over lower Alabama with the Lees’ inner circle of friends.

Nelle shared her love of history, literature, and the Southern way of life with Mills, as well as her keen sense of how journalism should be practiced. As the sisters decided to let Mills tell their story, Nelle helped make sure she was getting the story—and the South—right. Alice, the keeper of the Lee family history, shared the stories of their family.mercy

Mercy of a Rude Stream by Henry Roth – This book marks the astonishing return of Henry RothA book of time, memory, and desire, this new novel is set in the New York of World War I: a colorful vibrant, carelessly brutal city where an immigrant boy, Ira Stigmanm is coming of age. Like Joyce’s Stephen Dedalus, Ira begins to discover the genius and the burden of his imagination, as he takes his first tentative steps toward adulthood.

quickThe Quick by Lauren Owen – 1892: James Norbury, a shy would-be poet newly down from Oxford, finds lodging with a charming young aristocrat. Through this new friendship, he is introduced to the drawing-rooms of high society and finds love in an unexpected quarter. Then, suddenly, he vanishes without a trace. Alarmed, his sister, Charlotte, sets out from their crumbling country estate determined to find him. In the sinister, labyrinthine London that greets her, she uncovers a hidden, supernatural city populated by unforgettable characters: a female rope walker turned vigilante, a street urchin with a deadly secret, and the chilling “Doctor Knife.” But the answer to her brother’s disappearance ultimately lies within the doors of the exclusive, secretive Aegolius Club, whose predatory members include the most ambitious, and most bloodthirsty, men in England.

 

Recent Award Winners in Children’s Books

Winners of the Children’s and Teen Choice Book Awards were announced in May at the seventh Children’s Book Week Gala in New York. Rush Limbaugh won author of the year for Rush Revere and the Brave Pilgrims: Time-Travel Adventures with Exceptional Americans, while Grace Lee won illustrator of the year for Sofia the First: The Floating Palace. Former Reading Rainbow host LeVar Burton was also awarded with the Impact Award for his efforts to instill “a lifelong love of reading in children.”

The winner of Book of the Year, kindergarten through second grade was The Day the Crayons Quit by Drew Daywalt, illustrated by Oliver Jeffers (also a nominee for the 2015 Nutmeg award).

Book of the Year winner for third through fourth grade was Bugs in My Hair! by David Shannon.

Book of the Year winner for fifth through sixth grade was National Geographic Kids Myths Busted! by Emily Krieger, illustrated by Tom Nick Cocotos.

Book of the Year winner for teens was Winner: Allegiant by Veronica Roth.

Children’s book author and illustrator Peter Brown is the recipient of the 2014 Bull-Bransom Award, announced the National Museum of Wildlife Art in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Brown was selected for the award, given annually for excellence in children’s book illustration with a wildlife and nature focus, for his 2013 picture book Mr. Tiger Goes Wild.

The Nutmeg Steering Committee has also announced the 2014 Nutmeg Book Award Winners! Almost 20,000 students voted from across the state of Connecticut and here are the books that they voted for:

Out of My Mind by Sharon M. Draper is the winner of the Intermediate Award (Grades 4-6)

Divergent by Veronica Roth is the winner of the Teen Award (Grades 7-8)

Paper Towns by John Green is the winner of the first ever High School (Grades 9-12)